Gay and Catholic: Accepting My Sexuality, Finding Community, Living My Faith

Gay and Catholic Accepting My Sexuality Finding Community Living My Faith In this first book from an openly lesbian and celibate Catholic widely published writer and blogger Eve Tushnet recounts her spiritual and intellectual journey from liberal atheism to faithful Cathol

  • Title: Gay and Catholic: Accepting My Sexuality, Finding Community, Living My Faith
  • Author: Eve Tushnet
  • ISBN: 9781594715426
  • Page: 396
  • Format: Paperback
  • In this first book from an openly lesbian and celibate Catholic, widely published writer and blogger Eve Tushnet recounts her spiritual and intellectual journey from liberal atheism to faithful Catholicism and shows how gay Catholics can love and be loved while adhering to Church teaching.Eve Tushnet was among the unlikeliest of converts The only child of two atheist acadIn this first book from an openly lesbian and celibate Catholic, widely published writer and blogger Eve Tushnet recounts her spiritual and intellectual journey from liberal atheism to faithful Catholicism and shows how gay Catholics can love and be loved while adhering to Church teaching.Eve Tushnet was among the unlikeliest of converts The only child of two atheist academics, Tushnet was a typical Yale undergraduate until the day she went out to poke fun at a gathering of philosophical debaters, who happened also to be Catholic Instead of enjoying mocking what she termed the zoo animals, she found herself engaged in intellectual conversation with them and, in a move that surprised even her, she soon converted to Catholicism Already self identifying as a lesbian, Tushnet searched for a third way in the seeming two option system available to gay Catholics reject Church teaching on homosexuality or reject the truth of your sexuality Gay and Catholic is the fruit of Tushnet s searching what she learned in studying Christian history and theology and her articulation of how gay Catholics can pour their love and need for connection into friendships, community, service, and artistic creation.

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    1. Eve Tushnet

      Eve Tushnet is a writer in Washington, DC She has written for publications including the Atlantic, Commonweal, The American Conservative, the New York Post, and the online editions of the New York Times and Washington Post She mostly covers the arts, from forgotten punk films to the US National Figure Skating Championships She has published fiction in Dappled Things, Doublethink, and Lady Churchill s Rosebud Wristlet.

    543 thoughts on “Gay and Catholic: Accepting My Sexuality, Finding Community, Living My Faith”

    1. Meet one of the hardest books I've been asked to read and one of the most important books I've read and one that should be a must-read for everyone today.Being gay isn't just a hot topic, it's a hard topic. I mean, who am I to speak of it? But then again, who am I to keep quiet?This topic affects us all: it impacts those who face same-sex attraction, whether they're the ones struggling with it or the people on the sidelines watching and (hopefully) supporting.Tushnet has, in just over 200 pages, [...]


    2. Update: I've been thinking of recommending this book and wanted to reread in case my impressions have changed over the past couple years. If anything, in a year that's been so fraught with controversy over the Church's pastoral approach to issues of sexuality, I appreciate Tushnet's honesty, humility (especially in making clear that her experience shouldn't be taken as The Universal Experience of Gay, Celibate Catholics) and compassion even more. And she's still wickedly funny. ****First off, I [...]


    3. Put succinctly, this is a hard book, but the type of hard that reminds me of Eustace Scrubb in The Voyage of the Dawn Treader compare baptism to picking a scab: "It hurts like billy-oh but it is such fun to see it coming away." Tushnet offers firm but feeling correctives for the oligarchy of narratives that contemporary American culture endlessly parrots about sociality and sexuality. Consistent with this approach, she grounds her words in her own particular life, exposing to the reader her stru [...]


    4. A poignant conversation story, quite frankly the best book on celibacy I've ever read, and a brilliant thesis on how the Church can become a welcoming environment for those who are gay while upholding Tradition. And it had me laughing so hard you would have thought I was reading Dave Barry.This book is well worth your time if either homosexuality or Christianity is something important to you, and if both are, then this is absolutely indispensable reading. Eve Tushnet is a celibate gay Catholic w [...]


    5. This is one of two books (the other being Wesley Hill's Washed and Waiting) that I am able to recommend almost without qualification to both 1) straight Christians who wish to dive into the experiences of gay and lesbian Christians and 2) gay and lesbian Christians who want to dive into what it looks like to follow Jesus (and the Church's historical teaching on sexual ethics) well. I could seriously gush on and on about how incredibly helpful and refreshing this book was, but I will try to keep [...]


    6. Excellent. At one point the author says some times you just have to start the conversation. This book does just that. Eve Tushnet want to let the world know that there are men and women with same sex attraction that want to live according to the Church's Teachings. New models of holiness need to be shown and this book gets that task rolling. She gives a balanced look at the issues. She does not claim to have all the answers. Therefore the reader has to continue to think. I am sure that as she an [...]


    7. Necessary, but not sufficient -- and that's not discrediting the book, that's demanding more of readers to seek out other voices besides Eve's own wonderful and generous story here. This book presents a lot of food for thought, especially on the subject of vocational seriousness about celibacy as opportunity, and on the virtues and beauty of same-sex love. I can see it being frustrating for people who need a more specifically Catholic/specifically Christian set of reflections. Like, it's really [...]


    8. Exceeded expectations by a long shot! Wow.Tushnet doesn't try to explain or defend the Church's teaching; resources for that are found in her appendix. What she does instead is tease out some practical helps she's found in living out this teaching, both for gays trying to be celibate for religious reasons, and for straight people / families who can always be better at loving our gay brethren, especially those who are single/celibate.Her chapters on friendship (a good third of the book) are very [...]


    9. I really recommend this for anyone with a traditional Christian view on homosexuality (which is to say, that those with same-sex attraction should be celibate) and also for those interested in how singleness can feel to Christians. She supports vowed friendships, which I don't know much about, but it's an interesting idea - not just for gay people, but other single and even married people. There are a lot of ideas about community and commitment to people besides the heterosexual nuclear family t [...]



    10. (Please note that when I say 'gay' I mean anyone with same-sex attraction, including bisexuals, just to keep it easier for me. I do not mean any offense to those with same-sex attraction who don't label themselves as gay/purely homosexual).My rating is 3/5 because as a straight person, it gave me a bit of insight on gay Catholocism, but I feel like it offers much more insight on what it means to be a child of God and one within the Catholic faith. That is, we all feel the need to love others and [...]


    11. I really enjoyed this insightful read. This is Eve's story she is not speaking in generalities but about her own experience's. I think this was really important to remember in reading this. I enjoyed her honesty. Understanding her struggles with and overcoming of alcoholism played a large role in her life and yet she never stopped searching and found her faith. I found this to be a beautiful reminder that it is our mess that leads us to Jesus and helps us find our own apostolate and unique way o [...]


    12. This was a cross between a memoir and self-help. Ms. Tushnet presents an easy to read account of her story as a gay woman who converted to Catholicism and has chosen to remain celibate in accordance to the Church teachings. I was drawn to this book to gain a better understanding of how she has paved her path. Many of the lessons she writes about can apply to anyone regardless of their sexual orientation. It is a great primer for those who are in church ministry of any kind to get a feel for the [...]


    13. A good read for everyone-Courageously honest-Resonated with me as a wife, mother, and practicing Catholic in need of much more practice-Refreshingly optimistic about alternative lifestyles including committed friendships-Inspirational for me as a woman, a friend, a wife, a Catholic, a good neighbor



    14. I struggled with this book. Not because it wasn’t well written or well thought out, but just because the underlying concepts of it conflict with so much of what I stand for. I’m a firm believer in reading books from alternate point of views, however, so I supressed my initial reaction. I actually found it quite a thought-provoking book. Ms. Tushnet came to Catholicism later in life than most, choosing to be baptised in her twenties. She came out in her teens so this was not the typical raise [...]


    15. i wanted to like this book.i really did.i feel badly responding negatively to it because i know a ton of people responded positively and i'm just like typical grouch me.i guess the first thing i should say here is that eve is doing a tremendously brave thing here, by writing her memoir, sharing her story, and proving that gay people can actually exist within the catholic church. that's a tremendous cross to bear, and i think she'll be thoroughly sanctified by doing just that much problems with t [...]


    16. I love this book because before being about sexuality, or community, or even larger theological discourses, it is about the vocation to love which lies at the heart of the Catholic faith. Tushnet does not use her story as a tool or weapon to deduce and impose truth. Instead, she insightfully reflects upon her experiences to make sense of Church teachings, and to present an alternative to the vituperative rhetoric that tends to permeate both traditional and liberal camps. She argues that her gay [...]


    17. I'm still trying to figure out what to make of this book. It's certainly a compelling read and Tushnet's story is worth heeding, perhaps especially for those anti-theistic queers who consider all religious LGBTQ people to be naive, oppressed, and/or dupes. Tushnet is not uninformed about queer culture, and she knows what she's doing in choosing celibacy.However, I wish she had teased out the nuances of gender more. It seems to me that one cannot accept the Catholic Church's teachings on sexualit [...]


    18. I really liked this book. Eve is honest and insightful. I found myself examining my own conscience by the end of the book: (a)How have I treated my gay brothers and sisters? Have I been a good witness? (b) What do I seek in my friendships? Have I done my due diligence and met my obligations?There are so many pearls of wisdom throughout, and I want to share a few:(1) "My father tells this terrific joke about an old Jewish man who prays at the Wailing Wall in JerusalemA younger man who watched him [...]


    19. Eve Tushnet is out, Catholic, and celibate, and doesn't give a hoot if you say that is impossible. Here she relates her journey to faith, and from there launches into a discussion of how to deal with such a situation.This book takes up issues of importance not just to same-sex-attracted (to use her preferred term), not just to Catholics, but to all laity who are not called to ordination or marriage, and wonder "what do we DO about it?" I was particularly impressed by her discussion of how friend [...]


    20. I received this ebook free in exchange for an honest review.I am Catholic, but not gay, and I was intrigued when I saw the title of this book. I was even more intrigued when I did some quick research and learned that Eve Tushnet was not born a Catholic, but converted as a young adult. What would make a young lesbian decide to join a religion is not generally open to gay and lesbian individuals?Tushnet's approach to being a practicing Catholic who remains within the parameters of the Church's tea [...]


    21. "Eve Tushnet’s Gay and Catholic is something like a how-to book in the vein of Augustine’s Confessions: part autobiography, part theology, part roadmap to a better way of being. Tushnet, a veteran essayist with bylines in First Things, The American Conservative, The Atlantic, and elsewhere, is a fascinating interlocutor with as much knowledge of the Christian theology of friendship as of punk anarchist collectives and all the classics of 1990s queer teen culture. A convert to Catholicism fro [...]


    22. I’m embarrassed to confess this, but I’m just going to be honest.I was hesitant, even worried, to review Gay and Catholic. That’s even though I immediately considered it a must-read.I was worried about writing a review that would do justice to this excellent work.I was worried that my devoted Catholic friends would raise an eyebrow at the title or subject matter.I was worried that those dear to me who are gay and not Catholic will think I’m judgmental or I reject them in any way. That on [...]


    23. I like personal, conversational memoirs and this one by Eve Tushnet is on point. It is honest, it is open and in a way it is the author breaking herself open and allowing us to learn from her own life.Perhaps the past I appreciate the most is that she lays or her assumptions on the openings pages so that we know what will be implied. Her faith perspective guides the narrative and she makes assumptions in her life based upon them. It works here, because this book is not an argumentative attempt t [...]


    24. This is not an easy book - though not due to either abstruse gender theory not theology, which aren't Tushnet's focus. Rather, it is challenging precisely because it is so honest, so poignant, so human, and so necessary. It made me cry and chuckle on multiple occasions. I still am trying to discern what the truth is and what I should do, but Tushnet offers some hope as well as the recognition that reconciling ones faith and attractions is not easy. Her reflections on friendship and discerning on [...]


    25. Witty, practical, intelligent. Even as a non-Catholic, I enjoyed the book and found it really valuable and helpful. So many books on LGB people from conservative Christians aren't really about LGB people, they're about Scripture and church teaching and everything but queer folks. This book definitely bucks that trend. I think gay and straight conservative Christians, whether Catholic or Protestant, will find it to be a good and entertaining resource.


    26. I found this book to be very informative, and Eve Tushnet's voice is really relatable. The chapters on vocation and spiritual friendship could function as required reading for pretty much everyone, not just queer Catholics. She doesn't get into the theology behind the Theology of the Body, but that was never her intention and not the focus of the book. She's much more practical and keeps the focus on concrete ways of intersecting one's spirituality and one's sexuality.


    27. A fantastic and refreshingly honest personal memoir, one of the best books on the subject matter of homosexuality and Christian faith, and one of the best books I've read on celibacy as well. There is much in the book that is challenging, and much to savour; Tushnet manages all of this whilst being thoroughly and uncompromisingly orthodox.


    28. Highly recommend. A must read that will challenge your assumptions and get you asking new questions. Be prepared for a meditation of sorts rather than an argument. The author fully intends to not explain the why of Catholic teaching, offering honest personal experience instead. Would be well written anyway, but even more so because how do you write a book like this? I learned a lot.


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